Struggling in relationship? That’s fairly normal. Most intimate relationships have their share of conflict because as individuals we usually have different opinions, desires and goals. What we need is to communicate well in order to take care of our selves and be responsive to our partners needs; this is often where the problem arises.
When I work with couples I spend a fair amount of time reminding them that they are in love affairs, not war zones; hence I stress the need to put down their defenses and re member that love and gentleness can bring them back into alignment with their original desires. It’s mostly about learning or re membering each other’s languages and reaffirming commitments.